A couple weeks ago, a mother in our homeschool co-op sent an email to the one hundred families who attend, sharing that her 16-year-old daughter is pregnant and (obviously) not married. The letter was heartbreaking not just in content (that the daughter was pregnant), but in its tone. This mother was clearly very nervous about the reaction to her news that we all would have. She went so far as to say that she knew some families would withdraw their friendship and would consider her daughter a danger, etc.
I sent a reply right away saying how much I loved their family and that I admired how the mother had offered support to her daughter during this crisis. I even said I'd attend a baby shower, if they have one. I worried that the reception she'd get would be much less generous.
I was wrong. Apparently this group of families rallied to stand with this mom and family. Some of the mothers in the co-op shared similar stories (their own or how they coped with children who became teen parents) and almost everyone offered love and empathy, not criticism and judgment. The next Monday at co-op, all day I saw moms and teens hugging this daughter and one table seemed devoted to giving kind advice and support. Made me so happy.
Today, I was reading at Shimmer Glimpse (one of my blogroll blogs) and Kimmy posted a very different experience with a pregnant teen who went to a Pregnancy Crisis Center. I'm ashamed. I worked in Operation Rescue (yes, I'm sure those who know me can easily believe it) for years and we supported the local PCC in our city when we lived in Pasadena. To hear this report from someone who is not a Christian and yet was seeking support for a teen who had decided not to have an abortion outrages me. Since I have so many Christian readers here, I thought it worthwhile to send you to her blog to read this tale of woe - Woe to us! (Kimmy is one of my very favorite bloggers, btw. I love her thoughtful entries.)
Thinking about Motherhood and Teen Mamas