tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9684236.post114360595674014111..comments2023-10-16T06:10:24.969-04:00Comments on Julie Unplugged: You Go Girls!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00088119765077193302noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9684236.post-1143668714562828482006-03-29T16:45:00.000-05:002006-03-29T16:45:00.000-05:00You are dead on. No one wants to be the person who...You are dead on. No one wants to be the person who is left holding the bag, particularly those who are born into privilege and didn't ask to be and who sincerely want to be a part of solutions!<BR/><BR/>I loved talking with Bill last night because I could see how hard it would be to feel that all this negative energy (coming from history) gets aimed at you! - just for being white and male.<BR/><BR/>So I'm not into guilting people as much as thinking about how we can hear each other. Those with the larger dose of ease do end up bearing the burden of listening, though. That's just how it works. But perhaps those of us with a little grace can also hear the weary "overprivileged" in their frustrations. I feel grateful for all the ways I've "been heard" at Xavier as I've wrestled with these very issues.<BR/><BR/>After all, I started out as a Rush Limbaugh fan! (She admits sheepishly)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00088119765077193302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9684236.post-1143668358801284832006-03-29T16:39:00.000-05:002006-03-29T16:39:00.000-05:00Good thoughts. . .many, maybe most, people feel a ...Good thoughts. . .many, maybe most, people feel a need to be HEARD, not counseled or corrected. The trick is to be able to listen with love not guilt. To nourish yourself at the same time that you are helping someone else. We all have to give ourselves permission to listen without bearing another's burdens. Otherwise, we are headed straight for compassion burnout. <BR/><BR/>I think all of us need to develop the ability to listen to those who may have been injured by our 'group' whether that group is Americans, white males, whites, whatever. But we are not called upon to be super people or God. We can listen and support without going on to beat OURSELVES up with guilt. <BR/><BR/>Whoa--that just poured out. . .clearly a sensitive point with me, but, as you know, I have my own background of social justice guilt and, really, in the end it doesn't matter if you tell a kid they are guilty because of Calvinistc depravity or because they had the bad taste to be born an overprivileged American. . .<BR/><BR/>Oh dear, that ended up sounding much more critical of your post than I mean it to. I really agreed with you! I just think we have to keep in mind that white male Americans are humans too ;-)<BR/><BR/>RebeccaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com